Tamra Barney Divorce Shocker: Simon Files for Divorce, Pours Heart Out on Blog
Simon Barney Files for Divorce
It’s official, Real Housewives of Orange County couple Tamra and Simon Barney have split up. It was Simon who filed for a divorce due to irreconcilable differences, but the real shocker, last night’s episode may have been the final straw for Simon and, that Simon states in the divorce papers Tamra was verbally abusive, and, has “committed acts of disloyalty and infidelity”.
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Even curiouser, Simon’s latest post on his blog at the Bravo TV, Real Housewives of Orange County website. The post is dated the same day as when the divorce papers were filed and while Simon never actually mentions divorce-he called his post, “Drifting Apart”-Simon’s wording is filled with rich subtext beginning with the very first sentence:
“I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and have a great New Year. I know the kids and I did.”
After not including Tamra, Simon wrote about Vicki and Donn “rekindling their marriage” then added this:
“I have to say I shed a tear when Vicki brought out the picture album at dinner. You see, I’ve been with Donn when he has been upset and heartbroken over his marriage. So it was especially touching to my heart when Vicki reached out to him and showed him love. It would be nice to see all the wives do loving things for their husbands.”
Simon added this about Vicki and Tamra’s relationship and Tamra’s “behavior”:
This brings me to Vicki and her influencing my wife. As much as I would like to blame someone for Tamra’s behavior, my wife really is the one that has to take the responsibility for her behavior. I gave up influencing her from the beginning because I trusted her to make the right decisions. Back to Vicki influencing my wife. If someone tells you to jump off a bridge, and you do, who is to blame — the instigator, or the person that actually jumps?
Then this about Tamra’s “choices”:
Tamra has also made her choices in what she has said on the show this season about me, (her husband). My belief is you should never disparage your spouse to anyone for any reason (especially on national TV). All season long, I have been unpleasantly surprised by some of my wife’s comments and conversations about me. I have no idea what she says or has said on camera until it airs. If I’m not present, I don’t see these scenes until they air unless she tells me about it. And she never tells me about it. Hmmm. More about this to come…
Here’s my two cents:
I wholeheartedly agree with Simon of not disparaging your spouse to anyone. In Simon’s case, Tamra is/was guilty of “disparaging” Simon on Real Housewives which, to Simon’s dismay, he didn’t discover until he watched the episodes, which could be a factor in Simon’s divorce paper allegation of disloyalty from Tamra.
Simon wrote that he no longer knew Tamra, who, according to Simon, had changed since she became a Real Housewife three years ago and began to associate with Vicki Gunvalson:
As I’ve already said, I can’t completely blame Vicki for this behavior. However I choose not to be around people that are not positive to my family and me. My wife seems to feel differently and always accommodates these kinds of people.
Simon then weighed in on Gretchen and the toll the Gretchen-Tamra altercations took on Tamra, leaving Simon to take care of both her and his family:
Last year Gretchen said and did things that upset my wife (false accusations, court summons, etc.). It upset Tamra so much that she remained in bed for a whole month. She was miserable and cried all the time during this period. Naturally I was the one with her every day taking care of her and our kids. And as you can imagine, not having her happy and healthy put a toll on our family. I promised her then and there that I would never let this happen to her again.
Simon pointed out that the man whom Tamra was talking so intimately with in the car about her marriage-another instance of disparaging your spouse-was a long-time friend of Simon’s. Simon then spoke about the scene where Tamra and her mother talk about divorce:
The dinner with Tamra’s mom … HOW UGLY! Can I ever get a break this season considering I didn’t want to be on it this year? I really never knew my wife felt this way about me until I watched this episode.
This could have been the proverbial straw that broke Simon’s back. Can you really blame Simon? Who wants to turn on the tv and watch their spouse talking about getting a divorce especially when you think your marriage isn’t on the rocks?
Simon added a prior conversation he and Tamra had last year on January 1 regarding Tamra’s ability to attract other men, a divorce and “the kids”:
Tamra and I were in Las Vegas the day after New Year’s Eve. She told me she knew she could get someone better looking, with more money, and who would let her do whatever she wants, regardless. But she was going to stay together for the kids. I was shocked, and I’m shocked now watching her at dinner with her mother, when she says, “If it wasn’t for the kids, I would leave him.”
Simon wrote that last night’s episode of Tamra’s conversation with her mother opened his eyes in regards to “how much in love” Tamra was in with Simon:
I guess I was under the impression that she was still in love with me as I am was with her. And sadly I had to find this out is no longer true on national TV.”
Simon added:
“I guess she wanted to have the drama spotlight, rather than what’s best for our family and me. Have we really drifted that far apart in just a few years?”
Simon then directly addressed Tamra:
You don’t need to run me over with a truck to get your message across, honey! Of course it feels like a truck just ran over my heart and soul. Wow! What a fool I’ve been. Never thought to watch out within my own camp. “Et tu, Brute?”
Like I always say, “If it doesn’t kill you, it will make you stronger.” But I think this one is going to hurt like I was being killed.
And sadly, this last part, to his children:
Sorry kids, I would give up my life and conquer the world for you. Just couldn’t triumph over celebrity and fame. Daddy loves you very much…
Meanwhile,Tamra issued the following statement on her Facebook page:
Tamra Barney Thank you to everyone who understands and supports me. For the record, all accusations are false. Tune in to “watch what happens” next Thursday for my side of the story. xoxo Tamra
Tune in to watch what happens next Thursday for my side of story??!?!???!?
A bizarre statement and, in part, validates Simon’s claim that his wife is stuck in celebrity/drama mode.
Vicki Gunvalson weighed on whether Tamra was a spousal cheater.
From US Magazine:
“Personally, I think if Tamra spoke to a man Simon would call it cheating,” she said in an email. “Tamra has 3 little kids. That’s all I care about is making sure they get through all of this.”
“We’re not divorced, not this week anyways.”
Tamra Barney, December 10 interview
On December 10, Radar posted a video where an intrepid reporter caught up with Tamra and Simon and asked whether they were divorced. Tamra responded that they weren’t but, ironically, when asked about Slade, Tamra asked Simon “do we really want to give that douchebag any airtime?” Simon responded to the reporter: “Just read the court papers, court papers don’t lie. We know what kind of person he is”. Simon then looked at Tamra and said: “There’s no court papers on you, is there?” Tamra: “No. None that I know of”.
Almost one month later, Tamra has her court papers, courtesy of Simon.
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As heartfelt as Simon’s blog was, and I do believe he believes in everything he wrote, he was not alone in this relationship. It’s not all her fault nor all his fault. Both of them had to to make mistakes.
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LBG1 Reply:
January 11th, 2010 at 08:38
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I agree with your comment to a certain extent. There’s not too many spouses who would be happy about their mate talking about their sex life, how “hot” they were, groping their (Simon’s) crotch in public, getting into catfights, and using foul language in front of the kids on a reality tv show. While Tamra called Simon controlling, Simon seemed to be near his limit of putting up with Tamra’s antics. Nobody likes to continually play the fool in a relationship especially when it involves your spouse talking about you behind your back on national tv.
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M Reply:
January 21st, 2010 at 18:24
Tamra was so mean to Gretchen now something called Karma is on the scene.
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I did see that Simon wanted himself and his family to be enough for her, but he was way to controlling. When he would ask Tamra “do I control you” she looked horrified to answer and he interjected “no, I let you do what you want.”
Don’t worry Tamra won’t end up in Glendora again, she will do what she did before, find a guy to help her up the ladder and move on when he quits Mercedes Benz
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Tamra is a big ol’ bitch. All she EVER did was talk about people and put them down…either to their face or behind their backs. Was Simon controlling? Yes, but for all the crap she gave Gretchan I don’t really feel bad for Tamra. Even before her marriage fell completely apart there were issues in her family (especially with her son) yet she lasked out at Gretchan which was cruel. Also, she played Simon and Vicki. When she was upset with one she’d cry to the other which made both Simon and Vicki think the other was at fault. Tamra…karma’s a beeeee-atch!
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Cindy R Reply:
November 4th, 2010 at 23:01
I quit watching the show because of Tamra! She was mean, backstabbing, two-faced, and selfish and those are the nice things I have to say. You could tell all she cared about what herself and all she said about anyone was ugly! Her husband made an excellent life for her but that wasn’t good enough and she wanted fame! She embarrassed herself with that real estate career with trying to compete against Jeana. When everyone knows Jeana was a no. 1 realtor with Re/Max. Tamra is only concerned with herself and not her children. I hope Simon seeks custody and gets it! And I hope Bravo is smart enough to take her off the air – because I, for one of many, will not watch the show until you do! There are far more beautiful, elegant and intelligent women out there who deserve to be part of that show! Tamra has no class!
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It is so sad when any marraige comes to an end, but that said I hope that Tamra and her children find a way to come to terms with what has happened… what will happen and that no matter how badly a marraige ends it is a lot harder to end a family…these two adults will always be the parents of these children. These adults need to remember that young hearts can be wounded and never heal from the mean and nasty things adults say to each other in anger.
These children love you both and it hurts them to hear you say hateful things about each other… they are a part of you… heck the best part of you both.. do right by these children and act like adults and keep the nasty stuff to yourselfs…
If the Marraige is over then it is over get done with it and walk away… do not keep digging up and spreading nasty stuff about one and other… Give your kids a better example then the bickering and name calling that has been going on in the press and on line.
If you could not show them how to be a good forever couple then at least show them how to be good seperate people that care about their kids… grow up for your kids sakes… or you will end up with another Ryan on your hands.. ( you both had a big hand in that mess) He may be Tamra’s kid but you both messed him up royaly.
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Domestic abuse? Who is she kidding! She is a bitch! Admittedly, he threw something and it hit her – but she was not injured in any respect to call the sheriff. For petes sakes! She just wanted attention and for it to go to the media! She is just seeking attention ! She is twisted. If she cared about her children, she would lose the attention during this divorce and concentrate on an amicable solution for their sake. P.S. So glad Jeana left the show, away from this witch !
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TAMRA BARNEY SHE SAME VERY SWEET PERSON ON THE SHOW AND OFF THE SHOW TAMRA YOU ARE IN MY PRAYS GRIL HAVE A MARRY CHIRSTMAS AND HAPPY NEW YEAR
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