Comments on: Spanking One’s Kids: Is There a Racial Divide? http://deathby1000papercuts.com/2009/03/spanking-ones-kids-is-there-a-racial-divide/ The WORLDWIDE LEADER in WEIRD ~~~ News -Politics -Commentary -Weird News -Crime -Opinion -Entertainment -Scandals -Celebrities -Conspiracies -Video Mon, 13 Feb 2012 23:59:18 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: beth http://deathby1000papercuts.com/2009/03/spanking-ones-kids-is-there-a-racial-divide/comment-page-1/#comment-39455 beth Mon, 22 Nov 2010 20:58:35 +0000 http://deathby1000papercuts.com/?p=5457#comment-39455 I'm white and I grew up in the South and I'd say this is less a racial thing than it is a cultural thing among conservative Christians. My mother occasionally whipped my brothers and I with a switch when we misbehaved badly. Those things really hurt too! I guess today, Mom would probably be down at the county jail for the way she disciplined us. The funny thing is that what she did worked well most of the time. We all behaved, stayed out of trouble, and were model kids 95% of the time. I never spanked my own children with anything, but my hand. So, I guess I'm sort of in between on something like this. I do think mild spanking is an effective discipline tool for some children. I think as long as it is with a hand, no one has any right to tell a parent they can't spank. Although, I would hope situations like this could be avoided by doing it in one's own home instead of in a convenient bathroom as this woman apparently did. I’m white and I grew up in the South and I’d say this is less a racial thing than it is a cultural thing among conservative Christians. My mother occasionally whipped my brothers and I with a switch when we misbehaved badly. Those things really hurt too! I guess today, Mom would probably be down at the county jail for the way she disciplined us. The funny thing is that what she did worked well most of the time. We all behaved, stayed out of trouble, and were model kids 95% of the time.

I never spanked my own children with anything, but my hand. So, I guess I’m sort of in between on something like this. I do think mild spanking is an effective discipline tool for some children. I think as long as it is with a hand, no one has any right to tell a parent they can’t spank. Although, I would hope situations like this could be avoided by doing it in one’s own home instead of in a convenient bathroom as this woman apparently did.

]]> By: Scotty http://deathby1000papercuts.com/2009/03/spanking-ones-kids-is-there-a-racial-divide/comment-page-1/#comment-9348 Scotty Sat, 14 Mar 2009 17:24:25 +0000 http://deathby1000papercuts.com/?p=5457#comment-9348 I would not say it is a "black thing" when spanking a child, I live in the south where many parents "whip, whoop" their unruly children. I started "whippin" my kids at a very early age with a switch. A switch is a thin branch taken from a tree or bush. After a few light licks on the legs with a switch, it got to a point early on where all I had to do was brandish the switch and not actually use it to get my child to respond to what it is I was telling them to do. The supervisor was wrong to use the word beat but even more wrong to say it was a "black thing". Far too many Black parents that I have known did not "whip" their children for fear of Department of Social Services coming to take them away. I believe a lot of people in "child protective services" are looking for a reason to take people's children and stick them in foster care so that they can have job security. I agree, there is a big difference between a "spanking" and a "beating". I also think labels like "liberals" confuse the issue. I hold many belief that could be considered "liberal" and I hold beliefs that could be consider "conservative". People like the woman described is a busy body, a nosy woman who should find some real cases of child abuse and leave people alone who are just trying to deal with their children early on before society has to deal with them later. People should also understand their rights when social services pays a visit. I have had enemies report me to them out of spite, people use them as a weapon. When they came to my door wanting to pay me a "home visit", I told the lady no, get off my property and have a good day. They use "home visits" to try to look for evidence in the home when there is no sign of abuse that teachers or school administrators can report. They are not the police and even law enforcement has to get a warrant to come into your home. If they truly believe or have evidence of abuse, they can take you to court but in court they will have to have evidence of abuse which again, unless you have caused a serious injury to a child that anyone can observe, they have no evidence and hence why they want to come in your home and poke around. I say they can poke their noses somewhere else. This all happened years ago when my children were still in elementary, now they are about to graduate high school and have been nothing but model students who have always gotten excellent conduct reports and college bound. A little spanking early on can go a long way in setting rules and boundaries for children. I would not say it is a “black thing” when spanking a child, I live in the south where many parents “whip, whoop” their unruly children. I started “whippin” my kids at a very early age with a switch. A switch is a thin branch taken from a tree or bush. After a few light licks on the legs with a switch, it got to a point early on where all I had to do was brandish the switch and not actually use it to get my child to respond to what it is I was telling them to do.

The supervisor was wrong to use the word beat but even more wrong to say it was a “black thing”. Far too many Black parents that I have known did not “whip” their children for fear of Department of Social Services coming to take them away. I believe a lot of people in “child protective services” are looking for a reason to take people’s children and stick them in foster care so that they can have job security.

I agree, there is a big difference between a “spanking” and a “beating”. I also think labels like “liberals” confuse the issue. I hold many belief that could be considered “liberal” and I hold beliefs that could be consider “conservative”. People like the woman described is a busy body, a nosy woman who should find some real cases of child abuse and leave people alone who are just trying to deal with their children early on before society has to deal with them later.

People should also understand their rights when social services pays a visit. I have had enemies report me to them out of spite, people use them as a weapon. When they came to my door wanting to pay me a “home visit”, I told the lady no, get off my property and have a good day. They use “home visits” to try to look for evidence in the home when there is no sign of abuse that teachers or school administrators can report. They are not the police and even law enforcement has to get a warrant to come into your home. If they truly believe or have evidence of abuse, they can take you to court but in court they will have to have evidence of abuse which again, unless you have caused a serious injury to a child that anyone can observe, they have no evidence and hence why they want to come in your home and poke around. I say they can poke their noses somewhere else.

This all happened years ago when my children were still in elementary, now they are about to graduate high school and have been nothing but model students who have always gotten excellent conduct reports and college bound. A little spanking early on can go a long way in setting rules and boundaries for children.

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